Bad Yogi Wedding Plans: Part One

Bad Yogi Wedding Plans: Part One

I really really SWORE I wouldn’t talk much about wedding planning because I REALLY thought nobody cared. Like, honestly– I”m a yoga teacher, not a HGTV show host!

Turns out, I get about a billion questions a day about what we’re doing, haha! Super surprised by this but also super excited because I’ll be honest with you: I’m REALLY excited… we both are, actually. So I love talking about it and doing cheesy things like buying ALL THE MAGAZINES and planning every little detail. Yet I’m not one of those girls who’s planned this day since she was 5-years-old, so all of this is really new to me. Whole new world! As cool/fun/sometimes overwhelming as it is, we’re not stressing about anything though. The marriage is the important part; this is basically just a fancy party πŸ˜‰

Answers to your most popular questions:
1) We aren’t getting married until 2016 and not until the weather is cool, AKA NOT in Summer. Also, NOT on a beach because after living in Florida my whole life, I can tell you that sand is not sexy. And it will get every where. Every. Where. It will end up in your eye, up your nose, in your sandwich, and in your underwear (HOW?! I don’t know but it is the LAW of sand.).
2) I haven’t decided if I’m going to change my name… legally, I probably will, but I love being a MOTZ! So I’ll always be Motz in my real, non-legal-documentation life πŸ˜‰
3) We’re going to have a pretty small wedding, partially by choice and partially by default because it’ll be in Italy.
4) No, I am not a boho bride. I don’t even quite get the “boho” theme… I’m like,Β why is it fashionable to spend a fortune and still look a little bit homeless? #confused

Here’s my inspo:
Everything I love is simple, elegant, and timeless. I don’t like princess-y stuff or overly ostentatious decor… Simple, beautiful, and intimate is what we’re going for here!

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We love shades of white for flowers. They’re so romantic and always beautiful. Love this style of centerpiece.

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I said no beach, but I didn’t say no water! πŸ˜‰ We both LOVE water + mountains, so we’re scoping places with those things as the backdrop. I got a call from a rep at a venue in Lake Como and she told me that the rental fee was *brace yourselves* NINETY-THOUSAND EUROS! … for 6 hours! And of course that includes nothing. Seriously, I almost fell out of my chair, I laughed SO hard. Like, never in a million years. Who even pays that?! I could probably get married at Versailles with the Queen of England as my DJ and spend less, lol! There’s just too many things wrong with that number to even address here, am I right?!

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Note: this is NOT my dress. Just dropping a subtle hint to expect something non-traditional… oh, and I do love this but it’s a bit too casual! I’m keeping that completely under wraps until the big day because I want it to be a surprise… because I’m SUPER corny and sentimental like that πŸ˜‰ But I do love lace and something very fitted, streamlined, and again, timeless. I don’t want to look back at pictures and think “WHAT THE HECK IS HAPPENING HERE?!” I think everyone has a mom/aunt/friend that has some wedding pictures like that πŸ˜‰

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CAKE! Yum πŸ™‚ Minimal details and not too feminine. I really loved this one with the platter on the bottom… it adds so much, doesn’t it? I could go even simpler, personally… smooth fondant instead of the texture. It’s creeping into boho territory here and we know how I feel about that, lol πŸ˜‰

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I don’t have an army of bridesmaids. Actually, I’m leaning towards just having my sister by my side as my maid of honor and no one else… is that awful?! I just don’t want this to be a circus, haha. Β And I LOVE LOVE LOVE this dress in black with a simple bouquet. Boat neck with that slit? Wowza. Plus, my seester has been blessed with gazelle-like legs and Amazonian height, so this would be crazy beautiful on her.

Anyway, over to you! Do you know exactly what you want for your wedding? Or did you when you got married? Is the courthouse more appealing than this mess? πŸ˜‰ Finally: ANY ADVICE?!

58 Comments

  1. You were right when you said the wedding is just a big party! Have fun! Dance! There can’t be a wedding without dancing. My wedding was the most fun day of my life. I say, as long as you and your guests have fun, it’s a success. People will remember the fun way before they remember the napkin colors, flower arrangement, or even the food. And remember to eat. It’s a real problem! My husband and I had to go through a drive through on the way to the hotel. Wendy’s is NOT romantic.

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  2. We were planning a big wedding but ended up eloping to Paris. We are both happy we did. Side note though about marrying abroad, I’m not sure what the rules are in Italy but we had to have a legal ceremony in the US, too for it to “count.” As for name changing, I changed my middle name to my maiden name. There’s always that option!

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    • amazing! far better place to elope than vegas πŸ˜‰ love that story!

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  3. I got married last June and it was everything we wanted it to be. I would do it over and over again exactly the same way. My advice is to bring that bad yogi attitude to wedding planning and do whatever YOU guys want. Don’t let people tell you that you “have” to do things because you don’t!

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  4. Oh Italy is so full of beautiful spots Erin! Come to Puglia ;D

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  5. I’m getting married in February and have exactly the same ideas as you! Simple, timeless, romantic, and really special. Currently sitting here trying to figure out the sitting chart, making sure everyone can talk to the person sitting next to them. It gets even more fun when your guests don’t speak the same language… πŸ˜‰ Just need to find a dress now, haha! Good luck to you guys and enjoy the planning!

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  6. Im 5 months away from my big day! I knew right from the start I wanted a casual laid back wedding with a big party. It didnt take long till everything fell into place. My dress is a simple lace number…i love lace it just looks so elegant! I have a simple flower bouquet as well! Price is seriously the worst part about weddings! I cant believe some of the prices I have seen for what they offer! Good Luck in your planning! I cant wait to hear more!!!

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    • congrats!! so excited for you too πŸ˜€

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  7. It’s best that you have plenty of time to figure everything out. My husband and I had all these plans but a lovely military move sped up the process. Long story short, we got married outside, paid $100 for a pastor, I wore a cotton beach dress and never took a honeymoon. My parents weren’t able to make the “fancy” ceremony so we went to them the following month and “recreated” our wedding again. So my parents have wedding pictures from a fake secondary wedding. I have absolutely no regrets about marrying my husband but I do feel a bit cheated on the whole wedding experience.

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    • Aww! My MIL has a similar story as that! She said she’s always heard that the simplest weddings have the longest marriages, so it sounds like you’re in good shape πŸ™‚

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  8. I got married 2 years ago and I thought I knew exactly what I wanted (we were engaged for a long time!) but when it came down to it, I had nothing like I thought I would, I went simple and pretty, although my dress was massive!! I think one of the most important things to remember is why you’re doing it, like you said, the marriage is what’s important, everything else is window dressing (beautiful, incredible and amazingly fun window dressing!) also do whatever you both want, you can never please everyone all the time so don’t try. Like someone else said, bring that bad yogi attitude to it! And never apologise for talking about the wedding (I LOVE weddings!) enjoy!

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    • so funny you ended up with a giant dress! i love it! πŸ˜‰

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      • I know right? I wanted something really simple and sleek, but ended up with a meringue!

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  9. If you like hills, check out Montepulciano. I played at a music festival there two years in a row and it’s one of the most beautiful places I know- gorgeous hill town in amazing countryside.

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    • Great idea! Looks beautiful!

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  10. I don’t want an army of Bridesmaids either. My bf doesn’t understand because he wants all his friends there with him. Hahahaha!

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  11. Sorrento, Italy. It looks absolutely amazing.

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  12. I’m Swiss, married to a wonderul mexican and living in Mexico. We had been dating for roughly 9 months when he proposed and got married in the courthouse a month later (in Mexico). I never wanted a huge wedding, but having at least my mom and brothers present was pretty important. So when it turned out that they didn’t seem to be able to make a trip to Mexico, we decided to take advantage fo visiting that summer (my oldest brother got married) and set the date a week after my brother’s wedding. My mom and aunt did most of the organizing and it was all perfect. Because all I had to do was attend and star my wedding alongside my husband

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  13. I love the idea of you sharing your inspiration:)) And it’s a beautiful inspiration:) Your wedding plans so amazing so far:) If you’re looking for a wedding photography in Europe, just give me a shout at sona@inspiredbylove.coπŸ™‚

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  14. I’ve been married for two months and the best wedding advice I can give is to explicitly convey your expectations of others. Don’t assume they’ll no and get it right. Plus, people feel better with some direction in these situations.

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  15. I’m planning my wedding for September 2015. What I’m learning is that you have to be direct, but that especially applies to your family members (and by that I mean your mother haha). My mother’s a New Yorker, my fiancΓ© has a huge family, but we have a fresh-out-of-college sized budget. So if you want something, be firm about it!

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  16. I love your attitude towards your wedding–it’s not one I hear, like… ever! I had the same mindset–I wanted a nice wedding but never lost sight of the fact that the actual getting married part was the important thing! I had a maid of honor and no bridesmaids, just to keep it nice and simple! And it was a beautiful “fancy party” without spending a bajillion dollars. Best of luck to you, I’m sure it’s going to be amazing! πŸ™‚

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  17. Keep your arms in sleeves.. elegant! One only advice, on the day of the wedding leave whoever is assisting you to “worry about things” you’ve probably worked hard enough until that day, only on duty: enjoy every single second of it, if you don;t pay attention the day will fly in front of you…. This is an advice that has passed through lots of friends and family for the past 40 years… it works!!!

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  18. I went to a lovely wedding at the castle in Malcesine by Lake Garda – (and I know people there who can help you with hotel rooms/planning etc; ) let me know if you need some contacts…

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    • ooo, fantastic advice! i will definitely be back in a couple months for some info if we decide on that πŸ˜€ THANK YOU!

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  19. I’ve been married about 2 years, we got married in Puerto Rico by the owner of a taco shop (on the beach… the feet were definitely messy!) had my brother and his sister as our witnesses (MOH & best man), had about 20 people there and it was something I would do over and over and over again. Stick to what YOU want, don’t let everyone else’s opinions change what you want. It is you and your husband-to-be’s day. Congrats!

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  20. I’ve been married for 12 years, we were together for 6 prior to that. Ours was just a big party and we had a Halloween wedding. All of the guests dressed up. Everyone still talks about it!

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    • that is AWESOME! love unique weddings like that!

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  21. If you’re thinking lake como, I got married there in 2012 and managed to keep it in a regular non-movie star budget. We used silvio’s restaurant in bellagio for the reception which has great views and is delicious. We had photos at villa balbianello instead of the whole ceremony which was a much cheaper option!

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    • what a great idea… thank you so much for the tip!

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  22. Also barindelli taxi boats has the most beautiful polished wood & white leather charter boat and they have me a really reasonable price for a boat tour for the guests after the ceremony.

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  23. You’re doing great! Stand firm in your decision that the MARRIAGE is the important part, not the fancy wedding part πŸ˜‰ My husband and I kept out wedding small and simple, no regrets what so ever (it made for some firm conversations with certain well meaning family members though so be prepared for that) Congrats!

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  24. My dream is to elope in Vegas, just an intimate moment for my man and I where we can party like mad as man and wife right after. And then we’ll have a reception with both of our huge families…maybe even a mock ceremony just so the parents are satisfied. But first, we have to get through an engagement πŸ˜‰

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  25. Do you plan this ceremony to be religious?

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    • neither of us is really “religious” but there will probably be a spiritual element as we both have similar beliefs.

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  26. Hi from a new reader. I can’t remember how I ended up on your blog but I’m so happy I did! I have practiced yoga consistently in 2014 and I’m ready to take it to the next level and it looks like you’ll be able to help me. Don’t mind me if I start to feel like a stalker on your social media. A very kind stalker I assure you πŸ™‚

    21 years ago I knew exactly what I wanted πŸ™‚ Planning a wedding is such a fun, exciting and a little overwhelming time. Enjoy every single moment of it and in the middle of it all don’t lose sight of what is the most important.

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    • haha, welcome, jill! πŸ˜‰

      thank you so much– we are definitely enjoying every moment!

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  27. My wedding was all about my partner and I. Through our relationship, our friends varied. Neither one of us felt super close to our family. I didn’t care about bridesmaid dresses, centerpieces or societal traditions. We had just bought a house, so it didn’t make sense to pay thousands of dollars in a wedding, when that money would go much further in our home together!

    We chose to get married during a New Years trip to the Bahamas, among a few friends and a few strangers. We got married at sunset on New Years eve – a symbol that we will forever end and begin our years together. A girl we met at a bar the day before sang a song to start the ceremony – we let her pick the song, sight unseen. I bought my dress on craigslist, which was great because I ripped it riding in the golf cart on the way to the ceremony! Ha! A friend took photos and another videoed it with a GoPro strapped to his chest. Our ceremony was very intimate and surprisingly emotional. There was no stress, no pretense, no pressure and no debt. This was the perfect choice for us…and I would recommend it a thousand times over.

    Much love to you. Enjoy your time building the beginning of your life together. Best wishes that you’ll have the support you need from the people around you for all the decisions you make for yourself.

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    • This is SUCH a beautiful story/scene… I love it and LOVE the symbolism of New Year. My favorite stories are of people who did things on their terms. Thank you so much for sharing and for the well wishes <3

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  28. First of all congrats!! The brainstorming part of wedding planning is always the best! I am currently nearing the end of my engagement, wedding is a few short months away, and it’s getting down to the nitty gritty details. I was not prepared for the littlest details that people would ask me. I was like “Umm I don’t know. Let me pinterest that…” But definitely enjoy this time!! The best advice I got when I was engaged was “don’t stress! Planning the wedding should be a fun time between you and your fiancΓ©. Once you start to stress about it, take a break (and do some yoga hehe) then come back to it in a few days.”
    And my sister is also my maid of honor and the only one in my bridal party so I don’t think it’s awful at all! My brother is actually my grooms best man too so ive got both my siblings up there with me. Happy planning!

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  29. I had similar plans in 2009. My mom made both of the dresses (mine is from a Vogue pattern). My sister was my maid of honor, but I didn’t have bridesmaids. My husband got matching ties for his dad and 4 brothers, but that was it. Our colors were silver, white, and midnight blue. We kept things simple. His mom made our cake. It was chocolate with a raspberry creme filling, and homemade whipped cream frosting (I hate the taste of fondant). We decorated the reception with icicle lights draped across the room, wrapped in tulle.

    πŸ˜€ Gush away about your wedding plans. Heaven willing, you’ll only do it once for yourself. (I’ve got at least 2 more to help plan thanks to my daughters, but I’ve got at least 15 years to wait)

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    • aww, thank you for the pictures! so cool that so many things were hand/home made!

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      • we had to have a homemade wedding because we were broke, but I actually appreciated it all the more because of the efforts of friends and family to make my day special.

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  30. Erin! So exciting! I got engaged a bit ago, but starting to plan it now – we have almost the same inspiration! Have fun with everything – I hope I keep my head as level as yours!

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  31. So the night you got engaged, I was TOTALLY CONVINCED that my one and only was going to drop the question. He didn’t (but when he does, it will be equally as epic) and I woke up to your FB posts the next morning about your engagement and was like DAMN IT! Damn it I’m so happy for you and obviously need to live vicariously through your wedding until my day comes. SHARE EVEYTHING!!!! (If you want πŸ˜‰ )

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  32. First off: congrats!! I think it is fun to hear about other people’s wedding plans, so please gush away. πŸ™‚

    That said, I got married this past August. i didn’t totally enjoying the planning, but my husband and I had a gorgeous day. Our officiant helped us write a ceremony that felt really personalized and kept us both as relaxed as we possibly could be, which was awesome. We were married at the Minnesota Renaissance Festival so all of our guests could celebrate with us, but they could also entertain themselves throughout the day – my groom and I were not huge fans of being the center of attention, but we loved knowing that everyone came to be with us. Also, to keep costs down, we didn’t have a giant dinner/dancing reception – just a simple catered gathering at a local dine-in theatre with our immediate family (about 40 people total). We also didn’t have a formal wedding party. My sister and my best friend were my unofficial best ladies (because every bride does need a little support system), but it was just me, my husband, our officiant, and our violinist on the stage during the ceremony. We did ask our moms to be our legal witnesses as part of the ceremony, though, too. Our gratitude about the support of our families and friends was a big part of our day.

    Italy will be gorgeous! Whatever you do: stay true to you and your mister’s values. Try not to stress (there will be stress). Try to resist the pressure to do something you don’t feel comfortable or happy about (it can be hard). Take in people’s unsolicited advice with a smile a nod, and remember that it’s your day – not theirs. πŸ™‚

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  33. I got married three months ago in Cape Town, South Africa. My niece was our ring bearer and we had no groomsmen or bridesmaids. Our wedding was on a secluded beach, but we had the mountain as well (we didn’t land up with sand anywhere except our feet). πŸ˜‰

    Ours was a non-traditional style wedding, non-religious and we didn’t spend much. We had the rings in a conch shell and when the time came to dig them out – they got stuck and 5 minutes or so was spent trying to get them out, whilst friends and family yelled out suggestions on how to get them out. This probably turned out to be the most memorable part πŸ˜›

    My mother-in-law made banana bread cupcakes and we decorated the tables with fruit surrounding sand-filled vases, with sea shells and candles. Friends and family took photo’s. There were colouring in pages, glow sticks and Chinese lanterns to set off later in the evening. We also had a wall filled with photo’s of guests attending the wedding. Most of the wedding was planned from overseas as I was previously living in Canada and my husband in the United Arab Emirates. I’ve been in Abu Dhabi for two weeks now and MyYogaPro is helping to fill my days at home, until all the visa/red tape stuff is sorted out!

    Thank you for your classes and congrats on your engagement πŸ™‚ Good luck with the rest of your wedding planning, and that being said, I think that going the court way would be easier, and less stressful πŸ˜‰

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  34. Super huge congratulations!!! Seeing as how I’m not married I have zero advice, but I like your plans. I haven’t been planning for decades but I know what I like and want – simple, elegant, classic, with fun things thrown in where appropriate.

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  35. I’m in the middle of wedding planning (getting married May 2015) and realizing more and more that it is vital to have your wedding be exactly what describes and defines you, your future hubby, and your relationship. Don’t do something just because it is the “new thing”, do it because it actually shows a part of you to your guests! Don’t always go with what’s expected…that’s boring! and i completely agree with you about the BOHO thing! lol Good luck and Congratulations!!!! πŸ™‚

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  36. I just found this post! Oh my gosh – you’re getting married in Italy?!?! That is so fabulous!! I can’t wait to see pictures – you will be so gorgeous!! 90,000 euros is INSAAAANE. That is way more than me and my husband’s combined salary in a year – yikes!! I can’t wait to see the dress. πŸ™‚ I knew exactly what I wanted for my wedding, but it seems kind of weird now because we got married right in the middle of the end of the traditional wedding era and into the pinterest era, but before pinterest existed. So all of our details were very us and I love everything that we chose at the time, but if I could get married again, after seeing lots more options of what weddings can be like now, I would probably make a few changes to make it more us. But it doesn’t matter at ALL because that was one day and we’re married now forever!! Yay!! So remember to focus on what you can do to be ready to be a wife, and not worry so much about having the “perfect” wedding. Because let’s be honest, there is no perfect wedding.

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    • Ooh, didn’t realize I could post a picture πŸ™‚ Here’s my favorite one!

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  37. My husband would’ve been happy with the courthouse, but I wanted Something. It was still pretty simple. Only cost around 5k. Got lots of friends to help out for free. Fake flowers from Michael’s that my MIL put together. Food and cake was from Publix. As it was only a 5 month engagement I just built a simple website as the invite (also saving money there) and didn’t bother with a bridal shower. And as it came about 1 month until the wedding I didn’t care what happened as long as we were married. Oh, and for the ceremony we both wore Google glass and recorded the whole thing from our perspectives.

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  38. Hi! Italian girl here πŸ˜€
    Just wanted to tell you that (I can’t really understand why people love Lake Como that much because I went there twice and I didn’t like it XD but that could be because I come from a region with an amazing Lake, Lake Garda, that someone spoke about in a previous comment so…) you should choose Lake Garda! We don’t have George Clooney but Lake Garda is the biggest lake in Italy and its parts are “divided” among three different regions, so you could actually choose based on the different region… Which I guess doesn’t make a lot of sense to someone outside Italy, but our regions are pretty different, with different foods and dialects and “personalities”. We are very proud of our regional differences. On the other hand, I would go to other regions for the food… Like Emilia Romagna or the Center-South. I find Nothern food to be less interesting (I mean, we are mostly mountain regions with a past of poverty so our traditional recipes are poorer, the real Mediterranean diet is in the South). Anyway, I am sorry this is so long, the place that was mentioned above, Malcesine, is like half an hour from where I live(d) and it’s really amazing. And the villages on Lake Garda rely on turism so there are a lot of different hotels and such so you could find something at a decent price. At least I hope so. But many of my friends go there on holiday so it’s doable. And I wouldn’t dismiss the summer, especially in the North and especially there. The climate there in the summer is AMAZING. There’s this breeze that lets you sunbathe on the shore or on the lawns near the water in a very comfortable way. I mean, that breeze is the same that coming up from the lake to my house 20 km away makes it possibile for me to chill on the hammock in my garden at 2 pm! (I am missing summers at home right now…) The climate is so cool that olive trees grow there! And it’s not far from Verona down South or the mountains up North.
    This comment might be strange but I thought I could help. With other lakes or advices if you need them! I mean, I live in Italy and I love my country, even with all the problems it has πŸ™‚
    And congratulations! πŸ™‚

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  39. I’m getting married in 2016 too! I’m having a vintage fall wedding in CT! I bet Italy is going to be beautiful!

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  41. I have been married nine years this year (got married at 21) and I had always dreamed of a courthouse wedding because I’ve grown up hearing romantic stories about “running away together”. I also hate being the center of attention.
    I did not get my dream wedding, and still a bit disappointed. I tried to please my future mother-in-law and not be demanding, so ended up having her try to orchestrate some combination of the huge princess wedding and my minimalist courthouse idea. Yeah, disaster! (Not to mention my husband was in the emergency room that morning and had to wear an eye patch to the wedding!)
    My advice, do what you and your Frenchman would love, don’t worry about anyone else. This is your day, everyone else who has already gotten married and has advice: they had their day. People who haven’t gotten married yet, their day is coming. So this is for you, not them!

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  42. When I got married (almost 21 years ago) we eloped, sort of. We told everyone that we were getting married. We went to Tennessee and got married in a little wedding chaple in Gatlinburg. The only people present were my mom, my grandma, and 4 cousins who lived not far from there. It was 10:00 pm when we got married so afterwards we all went to McDonald’s for a late supper. If I had it to do all over again I wouldn’t change anything about our wedding! Congratulations Erin may you be as happy as I am for the rest of your lives!

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  43. Hi Erin,

    so glad to know you’re gonna to get married in Italy…! Where exactly? If you need any suggestion, I’m here πŸ™‚

    Hugs from an italian BadYogi, Fiamma

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